In my observations, when you lie to someone, you blame the other person, even though you are the one lying. You will indeed find an excuse to justify your lie. Because they deserve this lie, telling the truth will cause more significant trouble. (Because you know the truth of everything 😊.)
But it is nothing but suppressing the guilt behind it. When you put your head on the pillow, you know your mistake, and at the first opportunity, you become aggressive and try to take the pain out of the person you lied to.
Scientists figured that we lie because of 4 reasons;
Put ourselves forward, protect ourselves, be kind to others, and be cruel to others.
And obviously, they are all based on selfishness. Not a surprise!
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There is usually an "I know best" idea behind lying because liars are so confident in themselves and their lies that they even believe and defend their lies at one point.
Much worse than lying is actually making other people lie. Especially if you are doing this to a kid, this is where the doors of heaven are closed for you. At least, that's what I think. Using your child's love for you and forcing them to lie is the worst thing you can do to them. Not to mention the fact that you lied to them.
I'm not saying that I never lie, but I try to tell the truth as much as I can to most people I care about in my life. But my sensitivity to these people is more than my sensitivity to others. While I can tolerate the lies of others, I cannot tolerate the lies of my loved ones.
And it may be a very optimistic approach, but I believe every problem has a solution. And that you can never reach this solution by lying. And bad people eventually lose.
If you want to learn more about why we lie, you can read the article on the link.
Sombrero ;)